I used to watch my mom every evening, same time, same routine. She'd light an oil lamp, ring a small bell, wave incense sticks in circles, and sing the same songs she'd sung for thirty years. As a teenager, I found it... quaint. Maybe a little boring. Definitely something "old people did."
Then I moved halfway across the world for work. New city, new job, crushing anxiety, zero support system. One particularly brutal evening after a terrible presentation at work, I found myself lighting a tea light in my studio apartment (didn't have proper diyas), putting it on a shelf next to a tiny Ganesha figurine my mom had slipped into my luggage, and just... sitting there. No mantras, no proper procedure. Just me, a flickering flame, and the smell of cheap jasmine incense from the Indian grocery store.
Something shifted. Not in my external circumstances – my job still sucked, my boss was still impossible, my presentation still bombed. But something inside settled. For five minutes, I wasn't thinking about quarterly reports or imposter syndrome or whether I'd made a huge mistake moving here. I was just... present.
That's when I finally got what my mom had been doing all those years. Puja isn't about appeasing some cosmic bureaucrat who's keeping score. It's about creating space to remember you're part of something bigger than your immediate problems. And aarti? That beautiful ceremony where you wave flames and sing? It's the peak moment where all of that crystallizes into something you can actually feel.
So let me tell you what I've learned about why Hindus do puja and aarti – not from a textbook, but from actually living it.
What Even Is Puja? (Beyond the Textbook Definition)
The word "puja" comes from the Sanskrit root meaning "to honor" or "to worship." On the surface, it's a ritual where you make offerings to a deity – flowers, water, incense, food, light. But that's like saying a wedding is "two people signing a legal document." Technically true, but missing the entire point.
Puja is really about relationship. It's the Hindu way of saying, "Hey Divine, I see you, I respect you, I want to connect with you." Different traditions explain the philosophy differently, but the heart of it is the same: you're acknowledging that there's sacred presence in the universe (or within yourself, depending on your philosophical bent), and you're choosing to honor that presence through specific actions.
Here's what I find beautiful about it: Hinduism doesn't make you choose between transcendent mystical experience and grounded earthly practice. Puja bridges both. You're doing very physical things – lighting lamps, arranging flowers, offering food – but the intention behind those actions is spiritual connection.
My friend Maya, who's studying neuroscience, puts it this way: "Puja is like a multisensory meditation protocol. You're engaging sight with the deity's image and the flame, smell with the incense, touch with the offerings, sound with the mantras and bells, taste with the prasad. You're basically hijacking all your sensory systems to create a focused state of awareness."
That's way more interesting than "ancient superstitious ritual," isn't it?
The Anatomy of Puja: What Actually Happens
There are technically 16 formal steps to a complete puja (called shodasha upachara), but most people don't do all 16 daily. Even my super-devout grandmother simplified it for everyday worship. Here's what a typical home puja looks like:
Preparation (Purification): You clean yourself and the puja space. This isn't just about physical hygiene – though that matters. It's about creating a mental boundary between "regular life" and "sacred time." When I shower before puja, I'm literally washing off the day's stress and mentally preparing to be present.
Sankalpa (Setting Intention): You state why you're doing the puja. Sometimes it's simple: "For peace and well-being." Sometimes specific: "For my daughter's exam tomorrow." The point is conscious intention. You're not just going through motions.
Invocation (Avahana): You invite the deity's presence. This is where traditions differ. Some believe the deity literally enters the murti (sacred image). Others see it as focusing your awareness on the divine quality that image represents. Both work psychologically – you're creating a focal point for your devotion.
Offerings: This is the heart of puja. You offer:
- Flowers (beauty and impermanence)
- Incense (purification and the spreading of good qualities)
- Lamp/Light (knowledge dispelling ignorance)
- Water (life and cleansing)
- Food (sustenance and sharing)
Each offering has symbolic meaning, but honestly? The meaning matters less than the act of giving. You're practicing generosity, even symbolically. And there's something psychologically powerful about giving your best to something beyond yourself.
Aarti: The ceremony of light – we'll dive deep into this in a moment.
Prasad: Receiving back the blessed food as a gift from the divine. This completes the circle: you gave, the divine blessed it, now you receive.
Here's what nobody tells you: you can do a full puja in 10 minutes or 2 hours. The elaborate temple ceremonies with priests chanting Sanskrit for hours? Beautiful, but not necessary for personal practice. My morning puja takes maybe 15 minutes. Light lamp, offer water and flowers, chant a couple mantras, do aarti, sit for a few minutes in meditation, take prasad. Done.
The magic isn't in the length. It's in the consistency and the intention.
Aarti: The Ceremony That Makes You Feel Something
If puja is the full ritual meal, aarti is the dessert that makes everything memorable.
The word "aarti" comes from Sanskrit "aaratrika," which roughly translates to "that which removes darkness." And that's literally what you're doing – waving light in circular motions before the deity while singing devotional songs.
Here's the standard setup: a metal plate (usually brass or copper) holding a lamp with one or more wicks soaked in ghee or oil, sometimes camphor, occasionally flowers or rice. You light the lamp, ring a bell with your left hand, wave the flame in clockwise circles with your right hand, and sing an aarti song specific to that deity.
After the aarti, you bring the flame to each person present. They cup their hands over the heat (not touching!), then touch their hands to their forehead and eyes. The idea: you're receiving the light/blessing of the divine and taking it into yourself.
Why the specific circular motion? Tradition says you're circumambulating the deity, showing respect by "walking around" them. The clockwise direction represents the movement of positive energy. Skeptical? Fair. But try it – there's something about the rhythm of circular movement, the sound of bells, the flicker of flame that creates a trance-like focus. It's basically sacred choreography.
Why five flames? When aartis use five-wicked lamps, each flame represents one of the five elements: earth, water, fire, air, and space. You're symbolically offering the entirety of creation back to the creator. It's beautiful philosophy, but even if you don't believe in that, the symmetry and the light from multiple flames creates a mesmerizing effect.
I've been to massive temple aartis with hundreds of people singing, bells clanging, drums beating, and the energy is absolutely electric. I've also done tiny solo aartis in my kitchen with a single tea light. Both work. The scale doesn't matter. The presence does.