What If You Don't Believe in God?
Here's a question I get from younger friends: "I'm not sure I believe in God. Is puja still relevant?"
Short answer: yes.
Hindu philosophy has always made space for atheistic and agnostic perspectives. The Samkhya school is explicitly atheistic. The Advaita Vedanta school sees "God" as ultimately beyond all concepts and forms – so worshipping forms is more about your psychological development than about pleasing an external deity.
You can approach puja as:
- Meditation practice: Using the ritual as structure for cultivating present-moment awareness
- Gratitude practice: Acknowledging the interconnected web of existence that sustains you
- Psychological ceremony: Honoring the archetypes and qualities represented by different deities (Ganesha as remover of obstacles = your own capacity to overcome challenges)
- Cultural connection: Maintaining links to your heritage and community
- Aesthetic experience: Appreciating beauty, ritual, music, and poetry as art
My cousin is a hardcore rationalist. He doesn't believe in anything supernatural. But he does a simplified morning puja every day because, as he puts it, "It makes me feel connected to my roots, it's five minutes of calm before the chaos, and honestly? I like the routine."
That works. The divine (however you conceptualize it) doesn't demand perfect orthodox belief. Intent and sincerity matter more than theology.
Common Mistakes and Misconceptions
After years of observing pujas (and making plenty of mistakes myself), here are common pitfalls:
1. Treating it like a transaction: "I'll do puja so God gives me that promotion." Puja isn't cosmic bribery. It's relationship-building. Yes, you can ask for things (Hindus are practical like that), but the core is about connection, not exchange.
2. Obsessing over "doing it wrong": I've seen people get paralyzed worrying whether they did the mantras perfectly or followed the exact right order. Unless you're conducting a major temple ceremony, small variations are fine. Intention trumps perfection.
3. Going through motions without presence: The fastest way to make puja meaningless is to do it while mentally making your grocery list. Better a mindful five-minute puja than a "proper" 30-minute one done on autopilot.
4. Making it joyless obligation: If puja feels like a chore, something's wrong. It should be something you want to do, not something you're guilt-tripped into. Start small, keep it simple, do what actually feeds your spirit.
5. Comparing yourself to others: Your grandmother's elaborate puja doesn't make your simpler version less valid. Your friend's Instagram-worthy altar doesn't mean your shoe-box-sized shrine is inadequate. It's not a competition.
6. Neglecting the spiritual for the aesthetic: A beautiful altar is lovely, but devotion in a corner with a printed photo is equally valid. Don't let the perfect setup prevent you from starting.
Creating Your Own Practice: A Practical Guide
So you want to start doing puja and aarti. Here's my stripped-down, realistic guide:
Step 1: Set Up Your Space
You don't need a whole room. A shelf, a corner of a table, even a windowsill works. Place an image or murti of a deity that resonates with you (can't decide? Start with Ganesha – remover of obstacles, beginner-friendly). Add a small brass or copper plate, a lamp (oil lamp is traditional, but tea light works), incense holder, small bowl for water, small bell.
Total cost: $20-50 if you're budget-conscious. Less if you use what you have at home.
Step 2: Choose Your Time
Pick one time you can realistically do this most days. Morning is traditional, but if you're not a morning person, evening works. Or lunch break. Or before bed. Consistency matters more than timing.
Step 3: Start Simple
Basic daily puja:
- Light lamp and incense (1 minute)
- Offer water, flowers if you have them (1 minute)
- Chant one simple mantra (or just speak your intention in English/your language) (2 minutes)
- Ring bell, wave lamp in circles while singing or humming aarti song (3 minutes)
- Sit quietly for a moment (2 minutes)
- Take a sip of water or small bite of food as prasad (1 minute)
That's it. Ten minutes. Anyone can do ten minutes.
Step 4: Don't Overthink Mantras
The simplest, most universal mantra: "Om." That's it. Just "Om." Chant it a few times. Want something more? Try "Om Namah Shivaya" (to Shiva) or "Om Gam Ganapataye Namah" (to Ganesha). Learn one, do it until it's natural, then learn another if you want.
Can't remember Sanskrit? Make up your own prayer. "Dear Universe/God/Divine/Whatever, thanks for today, please help me not be a jerk, help the people I love, help the world be less messed up. Okay bye." Totally valid.
Step 5: Learn One Aarti Song
Start with "Om Jai Jagdish Hare" – it's the universal aarti, works for any deity. YouTube has approximately 10 million versions. Pick one you like, play it during your aarti, sing along. Eventually, you'll memorize it.
Or use any devotional song that moves you. God doesn't grade you on authenticity of musical selection.
Step 6: Track Your Progress
For the first month, just track if you did it or not. Don't judge the quality. Binary tracking: did puja today – yes or no. You'll miss days. That's fine. The goal is establishing the habit, not perfection.
Step 7: Adjust as Needed
After a month, assess. Does this feel meaningful? Does the timing work? Do you need to simplify further or can you elaborate? Adjust accordingly. This is your practice. It should serve you.
When Puja Becomes Part of Your Life
Here's what I didn't expect when I started doing puja regularly: it changed everything and nothing.
My external life didn't transform. I didn't suddenly get rich or enlightened or problem-free. But my relationship to my life changed. I became more... present. More able to appreciate good moments. More resilient during hard times. Less reactive to the daily nonsense that used to derail me.
There's something powerful about starting your day by acknowledging something sacred. It sets a tone. You're not just a biological machine optimizing productivity. You're a spiritual being having a human experience, and you're taking time to honor that.
The evening aarti became our family's anchor point. No matter how crazy the day was, at 7 PM, we gather. We light the lamp, we sing (terribly, but enthusiastically), we sit for a moment in silence, we share prasad. It's 10-15 minutes where we're together, fully present, phones away.
My kids will probably roll their eyes at this in their teenage years, just like I did. But I hope someday, when they're stressed and overwhelmed in some distant city, they'll remember the song and the smell of incense and the flicker of the lamp. And maybe they'll light a flame themselves.
The Deeper Truth: What Puja Really Teaches
Underneath all the ritual and symbolism, puja is teaching a few fundamental truths:
Everything is interconnected: When you offer water, flowers, light, food – you're acknowledging that you depend on elements beyond yourself. You didn't create that water or grow those flowers or produce that food ex nihilo. You're part of an vast web of existence.
Giving matters: You're offering your best – the nicest flowers, the purest ghee, your sincere attention. You're practicing generosity, even if the recipient is ultimately yourself/the divine/the universe.
Presence is sacred: For those few minutes of puja, you're not somewhere else. You're here, now, engaged in this action. That's a radical act in a world designed to fragment your attention.
The mundane can be holy: You're taking everyday objects – flowers, food, light – and treating them as sacred. This trains you to see potential sacredness in everything. Your morning coffee can be as mindful as your morning puja, if you approach it with the same presence.
Community transcends time: When you sing the same aarti your grandmother sang, you're communing with her across time. When you do the same ritual practiced for centuries, you're part of an unbroken human chain of meaning-making.